Tuesday, April 20, 2010

A Cell Phone for Me: A Guest Post by Laura*

*Laura's school assignment was to write a persuasive essay. It was sent home from school today with a grade of E+ and the teacher's note: "Very convincing!" Laura generously allowed me to post it here where generously equals responsibly, independently, and without waiting.


Mom and Dad, for many years now, I have wanted a cell phone. You have always told me I am too young for a phone, but now that I am ten I think that we can discuss it again. I have been extremely responsible at home, it would give me more independence, and you wouldn't have to wait for me after events.

First of all, I have been extremely responsible at home and at school. At home, I have taken your dishes and washed them and I have helped empty the dishwasher. At school, I have kept my desk clean and organized. Also, I have never left my iPod anywhere and I will be even more cautious with a phone. As you have seen above I am very responsible.

Secondly, it gives me more independence. At home I cannot even pack to go to Los Angeles without you standing over me. I can afford at least 1/3 of it and I won't have to interrupt calls on the home or cell phones to call my friends. Also, I can call you when I get lost. I know you like to monitor my belongings, but I am ten now and I need to have personal belongings. As you can see I really need more independence.

Last, you don't have to wait for me after events, I can just call. During Karate, Art, Knitting, and play dates you always have to wait for me outside, instead you could be getting a massage, having coffee with friends, or having a romantic dinner with each other. After I am done I can call you to pick me up. You can do many things when I have a phone.

As you can see, my responsibility level is high, I need more independence, and you won't have to wait for me after events. I've been waiting several years for a phone and I think now would be the perfect time to get one.

by Laura

Thursday, April 15, 2010

I Think It's Okay to Share a Blogging-Related Email When the Message Really Speaks to the Recipient, Right?




For a long while I didn't have an email address linked to my blog. I had no particular reason to have or not have it linked, I just didn't. But a particular blogger friend, who shall remain nameless, kept emailing me to say that she'd like to engage in discussion about my witty comments (what?) on her blog, but without the email link she had to keep going to her email program to write back. Or something like that. Anyway, I finally did it. And now when I leave a comment on someone's blog, sometimes I get nice emails in return, and that's cool. So, overall, it's fine.

I got a lot less junk mail when there was no email link, that's for sure.

I think most bloggers get almost daily offers to do product or book reviews, accept a morsel of pocket change to put an ad on a sidebar, and similar. I don't do that stuff here, denying myself a lucrative career, I'm sure.

In that regard, I think it is important to note here that when someone in marketing takes the time to at least pretend they read your blog by mentioning something that hooks you in the first line of the email, well, at least it's entertaining. My favorite email started with, "I've been enjoying your website and reading about the wonder that is Adam Lambert!" You know how teenage girls do that annoying thing where they try to work the name of their crush into every conversation one way or another? You may or may not have noticed that I do that a little bit (what?), so I found that email downright endearing. I still didn't endorse or review whatever the product was, but I gave the sender bonus points in my head.

Anywho. On the other side of the spectrum from a personalized message (from someone who was able to glance at my sidebar and see the Adam Lambert Homage), there are the more plentiful canned emails. Or, maybe I can just stop worrying right now about whether I've shared too much personal information on my blog. Because last week I got this email:

Dear Blog This Mom:

As a Canadian blogger, you have been identified as a participant in a short survey to gain a better understanding of the Canadian blogging environment, as well as to gain your perspective on some of the products you may have purchased recently. Your opinion is important to us and you will be eligible to receive free products and coupons upon completion of the survey.

The survey should take only 5-7 minutes to complete. All of your answers will be kept confidential and personal data will only be used to allow for delivery of free products and coupons.

To begin the survey, please click the following URL: [Redacted because, yeah, redacted, heh.]

Thank you in advance for your participation!


I guess this means that I should start watching hockey.

Monday, April 12, 2010

We Offer the Finest in Earthquake Detection and Home Security Systems

After the 7.2 earthquake (centered in Baja California) struck on Easter Sunday, Laura sold us an earthquake detection system. Installation was included in the $3 sales price. We bought two because we're stupid supportive parents like that. What?

Last week, Laura installed a "47-point security system" in her room.



Spring break is over now. However, I'm guessing that the appearance of various inventions around my house are from from it.

Thursday, April 08, 2010

Is Putting Primary Responsibility for Correcting the Problem on the Victim's Shoulders Any Better Than Blaming Her For It?


"An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it."
~Mahatma Gandhi


One of the best parts of blogging and tweeting is that uncensored thought can be aired. Sometimes that means a bit of joy can be shared, the burden of our sorrows can be divided between supportive shoulders, or ideas can be discussed. When that happens it is freedom of speech at its finest. Yes, there are times people say asinine things or draw conclusions that wouldn’t stand up in the light of day, much less make it across an editor’s desk to publication. And for those times, comments and replies allow for a response (or even a smackdown) when one is needed.

Even in newspapers, particularly the editorial pages, opinions are just that. Opinions. We all know (or should), that just because an opinion is found in a newspaper doesn't mean it is well informed, takes into account the whole picture, or is right. More importantly, even if a particular point made is right, that doesn’t necessarily make the overall message a good one.

Last week, I wrote a post about the message being propagated that if the then-child survivor of the attack by John Albert Gardner had testified at trial, Gardner might not have had the opportunity to hurt other victims. While it may be human to go through the “what ifs,” nobody knows better than a survivor that the “what ifs” turn into a scorched-Earth search in the mind of the survivor – for the rest of his or her life unless some significant healing happens. So, really, rather than focusing the “what if” question on what would have happened if the survivor had done something differently, what if “we the people” took protecting our children seriously enough that survivors of violent sex offenders were uplifted and supported by the entire community and what if the perpetrators of violent sex crimes were sentenced to life without the possibility of parole the first time they offended. That would be a start.

On April 2, 2010, an editorial in the San Diego Union-Tribune discussed important and significant improvements made in the process of obtaining witness testimony, and then concluded by saying “the biggest need, however, is an educational effort. The point must be made to parents how important it is for their child to testify, so that no perpetrator escapes conviction to become some other parent’s worst nightmare.” The most glaring failure in that statement is that it seems to make the victim's testimony of paramount importance. The narrow focus on the need of the victim to testify ignores the more critical issue that failure to keep our keep our children safe is a systemic problem. This gives the appearance of shifting responsibility of others' safety to the victim. Wouldn't it be a wonderful world indeed if all it took was a victim's testimony to keep a perpetrator from ever hurting someone else?

Testifying at trial is important -- if it is possible. And a lot more goes into the determination of whether it is possible for a victim to testify than most of us ever want to have to wrap our heads around. Everything and anything that our criminal justice, mental health, and social services systems can do to link hands and make testifying easier for the survivors and their families is essential. But testifying at trial isn’t the one-stop solution everyone – including me – would like it to be. Following the testimony, we also need laws that have the teeth to keep violent sex offenders off the streets permanently, whether in prison or secured in mental health facilities. Victims of violent sex crimes don’t get a second chance; neither should the perpetrators.

A greater degree of certainty that the result would get these guys off the streets so that no one else would be hurt would make the process of providing testimony that much more tolerable to victims and their families. If violent sex offenders are put away after the first offense, a lot less testimony will be needed.

Sunday, April 04, 2010

Earthquake Status Report


Our Easter eggs ended up scrambled today, as a 7.2 earthquake (upgraded from the original 6.9 reports) centered in Baja California sloshed the water smack out of our swimming pool.

While Tom and I stood in a door jamb with Laura, I had the presence of mind (don't say it) to run back for my iPhone boyfriend because, darn it, I wanted to be the first one to tweet the news. I'm pretty sure that I was first because the ground was still shaking while I was tweeting.

Within the hour, Laura had developed an earthquake detection device. She installed it on my desk. Also, she charged me $3 for it.





I should note, for the record, that Laura installed an earthquake detection device made of frogs on our dresser. Tom paid $3 for that one.

In summary, the earthquake caused $6 in damages at our house.


Saturday, April 03, 2010

Release Date: April 4, 2010





Happy Easter!