Thursday, February 12, 2009

Today I'm Asking You


These are my friends, Chris and Bill, and their two children. The photo by the swimming pool was taken at our house two and a half years ago. Those darling kids in the picture are three and four years old now!

Chris and I became friends in our first year of law school. I know him to be one of the warmest, smartest, and most decent men I have the honor to call my friend. Bill is a man of grace, dignity, and quiet strength. Their family have been guests in our home, and our family has been to theirs. Chris and Bill's dining room table is equipped with booster seats, their bathroom has a potty chair, and their shelves have Baby Einstein DVDs and board books.

Over the years Chris and Bill have supported my children by doing things like buying Girl Scout cookies from Laura, ordering wrapping paper and pizza cards for Courtney's high school sports teams, and helping Kristen with a college research project.

I am sharing a glimpse into the lives of Chris and Bill because today Chris sent me an email. He asked me to help support his family, as he has supported mine.

I have signed my name to the petition at the Courage Campaign, and Chris asked me to pass along the message that more signatures are needed.

From the Courage Campaign website:
On December 19, 2008, Ken Starr and the Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund filed legal briefs defending the constitutionality of Prop 8 and seeking to nullify the marriages of 18,000 devoted same-sex couples solemnized before Prop 8 passed.

The Supreme Court will hear oral arguments in this case on March 5, with a decision expected within 90 days. We . . . ask that the Court enforce the equality promised to each of us by our constitution and invalidate Prop 8.

Today I'm asking you to look at the photos of Chris, Bill, and their two children, and then look deep into your heart. If you agree with me that the beautiful family pictured deserves the same legal protection under the law that my family and yours enjoy, then please click over now and sign the petition before the submission deadline on February 14, 2009.

UPDATE: The Courage Campaign has extended the signing deadline to March 2, 2009. You do not have to sign in person, be a registered voter, or even a U.S. or California citizen to sign. (This is not a petition for a ballot initiative, which has different requirements.) By signing online you will add your name to the Courage Campaign's letter to the state Supreme Court asking that it invalidate Prop 8. Please take a moment to join me, and over 225,000 230,000 280,000 300,000 330,000 350,000 others, in sending a message to judges and lawmakers that we the people want all marriages between two loving adults to have equal protection under the law.





59 comments:

Joanie said...

I sure will! I have a brother who is gay. He and Mark have been together for about 12 years now.

blognut said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-awVQkTeVE

You HAVE to check this out... and I'm headed over to sign the petition right now.

phd in yogurtry said...

Gladly.

http://coffeeyogurt.blogspot.com/2009/02/show-true-compassion-on-valentines-day.html

Trish said...

DUDE! How many times can I sign that petition? Do you think it would be bad if I just submit my signature like 10,000 times?

I will also email everyone I know!

She said...

I'm on my way there right this minute? Can I sign with every email address I have? : )

She said...

! not ? duh!!!

Cat said...

I'm signing even though I'm not a resident of California. My hope is that Prop 8 will be turned over, nullified, burned at the stake or whatever. Hopefully the movement for equality will start to spread across the country, much like sushi and tofu. It should take a mere 20 years to reach Georgia.

Anonymous said...

Dear Cheri,
Chris is my brother. I love him very much. I am grateful every day to have a big brother that has stood by my side,been my friend,my protector,a voice of wisdom and sometimes,a port in the storm. Bill is a remarkable man,who is one of a very few who possess the same quality my grandfather had, which is to make you feel like you are the most important person in the room. A rare gift indeed. Julie & Mitchell are my neice & nephew. They are amazing,beautiful,miraculous. They are my family. Thank you Cherie.
Connie Brown

Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

you have to wonder who would look at this great family and be against loving adults getting married---it is just mean spirited

Beth said...

I saw that video yesterday - inspiring and heartbreaking considering the circumstances as to why it was made.
I would so sign that petition if I lived there!
And I realize how fortunate I am to live in Canada.

Tricia said...

Done!

Janet said...

Done, and added to my Friday Fill-Ins :-)

Michelle said...

Heading over to sign the petition now.....

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Signed and back and will pass the word. Thanks for letting us know.

MJ said...

I'd sign if I could but I can't so I won't.

Mom On The run said...

I don't know if I can sign, I'm Canadian. If they annul their marriage they can come up here and get married.

dkuroiwa said...

Signed...sealed...and delivered.
Will post about it later.
You, my dear, are 'good people'.

Miss M said...

I have this issue posted on my site as well. There are so many wonderful families out there like theirs. It would be awful to undo these commitments...

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Katie Sullivan said...

Is this petition legally recognized? Because I can come over and sign it in person too. :-)

Mike Barbanti said...

Did this yesterday my love when I put it on my Facebook page. Thanks again for putting faces and names to the 10,000 Californians who will lose their marriages if Mr. and Mrs. Ignorance and Prejudice have their way.

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

Katie:

Your question is excellent.

The petition for a ballot initiative must follow specific guidelines in terms of format, circulation, and signature as set forth by the California Secretary of State. A link to those guidelines is here.

Opinions about the legal standing and effectiveness of online petitions gathered in grassroots efforts to raise awareness and/or get the attention of politicians and judges are all over the Interwebs. When deciding whether to sign one, even (or especially) for a cause in which we believe wholeheartedly, it is good to ask some questions:

Who sponsors or runs the site or organization?

What are the names of the individuals or groups involved?

To whom will the petition be presented?

How is it expected to make a difference?

Will they publish results?

And here is the big one (at least for me):

Are they using the petition merely to gather mailing list information, i.e., will they honor a request to not be included in any mailing list?

Thanks Katie!

Shana said...

That whole family? All four of them? I could eat them with a spoon. Each one more adorable than the next.

stephanie (bad mom) said...

I'm on it; thanks for asking.

Your friends are sheer gorgeousness, by the way.

Prohomemaker.Com said...

Good for you! And I am posting the petition, too.

And by the way, my partner and I will be together 14 years in June -- longer than both my sister's marriages.

Gordo said...

I'm a godless, burning in hell Canadian (we've had legal same-sex marriage since 2005), but I'll sign away!

I ran across a very interesting site a few weeks ago. It's a google map combined with the database of people who donated to help get prop 8 passed. I wonder if they had any idea that they could be publicly labelled as fearful phobes?

Jerry said...

Done and done. I'm a follower of Gary Rith's blog. I have thanked him for his post and am now thanking you for yours. I have also thrown this up on Facebook and my blog. Even though I am not a CA resisdent and am unsure if my signature counts, I am sure that any support helps. Thank you for working towards equal rights for all.

Lynda said...

Here via Gary...and I have signed the petition. Thanks for directing us to it :-)

apathy lounge said...

Gladly! A loving family like this is invaluable to growing children. When I think what is allowed to pass for "family" in the heterosexual community it makes me ill. I'm off to sign.

Seraphine said...

i signed it.
being able to marry the person you love is such a basic right, it numbs me to think it is even an issue.

Jason, as himself said...

What a great family. I wish I knew them. Their plea is our plea. Their life is our life. Again, I'm so thankful to you for doing what you do to further the cause of humanity and decency!

Michael Barrow said...

Signed a while back, posted to Facebook, and submitted to Five Star Friday...Now can I have my rights back please?

San Diego Momma said...

Did and done.

Magpie said...

done.

kcinnova said...

Cheri, does it matter if I am a resident of one state and living in another (neither of which is CA)?

Vodka Mom said...

okay, I'm going!!!!!

Csquaredplus3 said...

I'm not sure if my signature is valid - living in Utah - but I signed.

Beautiful family! You're so good at this stuff Cheri. Run for office, any office!

Schmutzie said...

You are being featured on Five Star Friday!
http://www.fivestarfriday.com/2009/02/five-star-friday-edition-41.html

Sojourner said...

I have signed the petition, already. I thank you again, for being such a strong proponent of "Liberty & Justice FOR ALL!"

Peace, Sistah
Sojourner

Sara said...

My signature is already there!

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

Hey Everyonel:

Do you have to be a U.S. or California resident/registered voter?

Good question!

Unlike as is the case with a ballot initiative petition, you do not have to be a resident of the U.S. or California to sign the online letter at Courage Campaign.

Thanks.

thornesworld said...

I'm not sure how I found my way to you, burning bunny or janet, perhaps (I always seem to have too many tabs open in firefox hehe), but thanks for this. We Cali gays appreciate you. I needed to let you know that.
!!!Thank you!!!

fireweedroots said...

Done!

Patti said...

Did it.

Anonymous said...

I signed immediately - happy to do so! (Come on up to Canada!)xoxo the fan

just jamie said...

Done. What a gorgeous family.

Trannyhead said...

I'm on board, of course. Prop 8 can suck it.

Saucy said...

I support their right to live a full and happy life as a family and raise their sweet children together. I am hopping over to sign, if Canadians are allowed.

Nora said...

I signed it!

Helen E.M. Wright said...

signed! will also blog about it this week!

Meanwhile...Chris and Bill you are more than welcome to move to Canada!! We have the FREEDOM to marry anyone there! ;)

Minnesota Matron said...

The Matron signed! Lovely blog post.

Nap Warden said...

What a beautiful family...I am with you 100% on this. I'm off to sign...

tinsenpup said...

It's just appalling that loving committed families are being subjected to this ridiculous process throughout the Western world. It makes me sick.

g said...

signed and done! Are you back from L.A.? Did you have fun?

MelADramatic Mommy said...

I forgot to tell you I sent out a Tweet about it.

Lisa Wheeler Milton said...

I'm s-l-o-w, coming off my break, but I signed my name today.

Gladly.

Stacey said...

Thanks for posting Cheri! My family and I so appreciate your support & that of your readers!

Daisy said...

Beautiful family is right! That was my first reaction to the picture. Wishing you good luck to repeal Prop 8!!

Becky Jo said...

I know not all states have it figured out yet, but I'm proud to be Iowan, where same sex marriage is legal. :)

I'm on my way to sign......